Notes for the Coaching / Command Exercise

Notes for the Coaching / Command Exercise

By Phil Kaplan

Following are select quotes from the February 20^th call that will help coaches in optimizing this exercise:

Growth May Not Equal “Taking on More”

· It’s important as a coach that you’re sensitive to the differences between expansion and growth. Growth can mean greater connection with family, or greater connection with nature, or greater sense of significance. It can also mean less time spent with clients, or less stress over generating money, or less time spent with people who drain you emotionally.

Our Multi-Faceted Approach Gives Us Unique Power

· If we have the ability to provide command, support, a technology that works, and adaptations in belief, we have greater power than any single intervention.

Once a command is implanted, a suggestion can get through previous barriers that might have existed. If we can eliminate those barriers through coaching, we have much the same effect as hypnosis, and if our message gets through not only to the subconscious, but to the conscious, the RAS and the PFC, we have immense power to control outcomes.

Creating the Right Internal Environment

· We need the right attitude to instill commands that work, and for us, that requires the perception of rapport and professional respect. If you have uncertainty, rapport, and professional respect, you can command actions and drive toward an outcome.

Often people have the answers. You just have to get the EEM or psychological blocks out of the way and the answers become real. There is virtue in asking someone to see, hear, and feel what life will be like in the future.

Respecting the Thresholds

Remember, in order for the challenge to be motivating, it has to fit below the challenge threshold, and it must contain elements of anxiety, uncertainty, risk, and clear expression of reward.

Calling Upon Childlike Qualities

· Most people have trouble getting clear on outcomes. Somewhere we’re taught that there’s a separation between pretend and reality. If we can reconnect to the innate ability we have as children to pre-tend, to create visions and not toss them away as fantasies, but see them as predecessors to thrilling outcomes, we gain an immense power.

· Make believe is a command. Where there’s doubt, you want to make it go away. In order to eliminate doubt, “manufacture belief”

· As a coach, your job is first to understand where the person you’re coaching wants to be, what they want to have, and where they want to go. Then, take a piece of the vision and pre-tend it. If you stimulate pre-tending, you then can take steps toward instilling belief, or making believe.

Questions for the coach to consider:

· What is the outcome the coachee / client hopes to manifest?

· What challenge can you issue that proves motivating without being overly intimidating, and what commands can you issue to ensure the challenge is met.

The Exercise Schedule a 30-minute conversation in which you elicit goals and obstacles per the COACH acronym. (set a time frame after the initial discussion for 2-3 weeks and determine how you best interact through that period).

Set up a brief call (not more than 15 minutes) the next day during which you’ll present a challenge.

“ I challenge you to _________.”

The coachee can accept or reject the challenge. If he (she) rejects it, he has to come back with a challenge that seems more reasonable but the elements of anxiety, uncertainty and risk/reward have to be there.

Pre-tend. Make Believe. Be Better.